There’s been a bit of a lull in the proceedings. There’s been a lot of time and a lot of effort put in although looking back quite a bit of that effort wasn’t productive. You know the sort of thing. Thinking about what to do. Considering options. Mindful about which option to act on first. Getting anxious because the options that have been pursued haven’t come to fruition yet.
Too much talk. Not enough action. Not like me at all, is it?
But if what I’ve earned is anything to go by, what I think is going on isn’t what is really going on. It’s what my brain has let me see, carefully filtered through its multiple reality tunnels to ensure that the view of the world that I get is the view of the world I expect to see. By the way, having spent the earlier part of last year thinking my preferred rep systems were Audio Digital and Kinaesthetic in equal measure, you might have noticed how my long winded diatribes tend to err on the visual. The more I peel off the layers, the more I see. See what I mean? Weird. I guess it’s what you might call growth.
Anyway, much of what I’ve done has been behind the scenes, deep level groundwork for the future. And it’s revealed some really interesting aspects of my work which I guess are going to change the structure of what I do.
As time has passed, I find myself less engaged with fertility issues. This is both from a personal perspective in that my initial interest in this area, ringing bells from as far back as my human biology O-Level, (as those exams used to be called back in the dim and distant), has waned somewhat and whilst I would still love to work with fertility clients as and when they come along, it isn’t something that I now feel any passion to actively pursue. There is also the not-so-minor factor that very few clients seem to want to talk to me about it. Maybe one feeds the other. Quite likely really.
On the other hand, I find more and more that the things I think, say and do around pain, especially chronic pain, persistent migraine and so on, resonate with people around me. And it seems to be having an effect. The neuropathy of pain is fascinating as are the psychological issues that can both cause and feed it. It seems to me as if Cognitive Hypnotherapy was designed to wrap up the science together with each individual’s personal experience and re-work it, re-programming the various unconscious minds involved to re-think their position, if you’ll pardon the multitudinous use of re, until the need to use pain as a protective warning bell becomes redundant. It takes some persuasion to convince the unconscious mindset but time is one our side. An unconscious that’s convinced itself of chronic is in it for the long haul. Small steps. Big changes.
I’ve posted a couple of times on the combination of Hypnotherapy and NLP techniques and my many (many, many) years of experience developing people in Financial Services. Isn’t it strange how with all this education, people quite simply haven’t learned how to learn. In my own small way, I aim to change this. Oddly, the next most active person I know of in this field lives only a few miles up the road from me. I initially thought this was a distinct disadvantage but the more I let it ferment in my sometimes fertile mind, the more I think this could be an invaluable opportunity. I have no idea how as yet but it sits there smiling at me. Perhaps we should talk. What do you think?
I’ve also found myself speaking with some inspiring individuals. Sue made an appearance here last week and in between times I’ve been to see Kate, an ad-hoc acquaintance from the gym who, as it turned out is not only a hypnotherapist but teaches people to fire-walk of all things. All of a sudden, one of those ambitions that never really was an ambition just a something that you might have done had you lived another life has slammed itself down on my time-line. I just can’t picture it yet, thereby giving more confirmation of the visual, just in case you felt the need for more. Sounds good, doesn’t it? (Did you notice what I did there?)
So now that the 4 year old with the fear of rejection has made himself heard again, thoughts keep spinning their way around and every now and then I hear the distinct clunk of important changes slotting themselves into a more secure place.
For reasons which will become apparent in a few weeks, I’ve been looking more and more at mindfulness.It has been a useful piece of research. The shouts from the past are getting quieter and I can pay them attention much more on my terms rather than theirs. It is also more noticeable that the scenarios my quite active imagination was in the habit of playing out around how my future could fall apart at a moment’s notice have quietened down too. They’re still there and they’re still stronger than I would like them to be but day by day, the focus I place on the now is taking hold.
By pure coincidence, right at this moment, my headphones are singing to me that;
‘It’s hard to imagine
That nothing at all
Could be so exciting
Could be this much fun…’.
Mindfulness. All those years ago. No wonder they were (and still are) my all time favourite. Not only that, my daughter Rachael went to see David on Tuesday. Jealous? Who me?
Actually, much to my surprise, I wasn’t. I was delighted.
With new views on life I sat down with Katherine and re-worded the website last week. It should go live within a couple of days. I can’t wait. The wording is less, well, wordy. I haven’t found the visuals I want yet but I’ll keep looking and they can get added in later. I’m trying out a different take on fees as well. Times are tough and I want to be more accessible than perhaps I have been. First session free. Discuss fees when potential clients have had a chance to talk to me and find out more about what they would actually be paying for. It might put the fee more into context. Words on screens are less able to achieve that.
All in all, much change is afoot. There are things to do. Fears to overcome.
The past has had its go. The future is out there, waiting.
And after all I’ve learned, I find that I’m happy being right here, right now.
Enjoying the present for what it really is:
Tony Burkinshaw Cognitive Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy mp3 downloads: Relief for Chronic Pain Conditions / Migraine Relief